The cemetery as emotional refuge

In today's society the concept of death is totally rootless, is a taboo subject and that on many occasions it has been trivialized and subverted by the exaltation of his most morbid and most striking aspects and, therefore, also more exploitable commercially, all in an attempt to hide or blur your presence, or simply ignore with the deafening mood to flee from his cloak, to flee from the fear which causes the mere finding of its existence, as if thus we could avoid it or what it is to prevent the flow of life itself that leads us inexorably toward her.

This has contributed to prostitute the concept of death, leaving aside its substantial meaning, its essence, subtracting value possible teaching we could get from the experience of overcoming, overcome or simply accept the inevitable of its final position in the life cycle and learn to live with the fear that makes us.
The fact the acceptance of death as inevitable, and assertively address as part of the life cycle, always provide us a different perspective on life: the awareness of the need to live, to live intensely each moment presented to us, flowing into the river of life without anchors that imprison us in the pastwithout the exacerbated hunger that takes us to the future, stopping us in the present and preventing us from living, enjoy and even be.

How much greater is the learning and knowledge about ourselves, and the more and better let us live in harmony with the existence of death, easier take the final step and, even, to accept and overcome the absence - after the inevitable pain, the inevitable duel - of our loved persons. Because in the same way that we accept own death will accept others.

In this context, the cemeteries acquire a leading role in the evolution of life and the death of all societies. They converge in all prospects, considerations, concepts, ideologies and viewpoints that revolve around death, reflecting not only the division of social classes, the social structure, but also the relationship with death, fear, pain, separation, hope or life.

This makes the cemeteries, repositories of funerary, and historical-artistic and cultural heritage in authentic places of emotional refuge where we are confident that our emotions, which are deposit and keep emotions poured into every bounce, every duel, in the consolation, in hope, in each encounter, in memories, in the historical memory.

Is in the cemetery where, with calm and peace that characterizes them, it offers us the opportunity of learning how to live, where with each bounce, we can begin a new cycle, a new phase that breaks with the previous incorporating its teachings, a new form of live, a newpoint of view of life, and learn to flow with it.

We can talk then of the cemetery as a portal of emotional healing that have place each and every one of the emotions or feelings there deposited, through which we can connect with them in harmony and promote the assertiveness necessary to achieve emotional alchemy that transforms pain to pain loss in comfort, the restlessness in hope, anxiety for the loss in acceptance, the absence of vital energy in the strength to return to the cycle of life. Perhaps we will thus achieve convert sadness by the loss in joy, in the joy of having been able to enjoy and share that life went. Perhaps we will thus achieve convert sadness by the loss in joy, in the joy of having been able to enjoy and share that life went.

It is a perspective that we cannot ignore the cemeteries and understood as a reason for their integration in social life of towns and cities.

It is essential that such venues favor this special approach, fostering an environment of calm that call inside peace and meditation.We fill the cemeteries of poems, phrases of hope, flowers, vegetation...

At the same time, in addition to the cultural movement already created in those who are more advanced in this line, promote the lectures, conferences, workshops of mourning, social movements of help and solidarity for these difficult moments that all the people have experienced, with more cruelty than others and in which the shoulder of a friendis always necessary in order to survive emotionally.

Amparo Rubinos Hermida
Head of section
Municipal cemetery San Froilan
Concello de Lugo